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How to Get Your Life Together | Adulting vs Growing Up

Are you crumbling under the weight of #adulting? Trying to figure out how to get your life together? I don’t know about you, but I don’t feel like I was fully prepared for the burden of being an adult.

Let’s talk about what it means to be an adult, what it means to be a grown-up and the difference between the two! 

Getting Life Together Motivational Video

In my newest live video, I share why the difference between adulting and growing up matters so much, and how to work on getting life together so we can get you to where you are supposed to be. 


Get Your Life Together with THE UNSTUCK WORKSHOP

If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed and worried… It’s time to get your life together and hack your mindset.

In this *FREE* session I’ll show you how to flip these five common thoughts into Zen Ninja Mindsets that will serve your highest wellbeing, right now.

Warning: After implementing what you learn in this live session, you’ll be so chill people might wonder what you’re smoking.



What Does it Mean to be an Adult?

Here’s how I see it. Adults have their lives in order. And while a person can have their life in order, they can still act childish and immature. These people aren’t yet grown ups. They haven’t grown up. There is a big difference between adults and grown-ups.


Adults vs Grown Ups

The stark difference I want to outline here is:


Adults have their lives in order.

Grown-ups have themselves in order.


What Does Growing Up Entail?

Growing up entails emotional order, psychological order, and spiritual order. I’ll explain what I mean by that.

  • Grown-ups have their emotional life in order and are able to self-regulate. Which really, is the hallmark of maturity in the face of something triggering. Grown-ups are able to manage their emotions and keep their emotions in check.
  • Grown-ups have their psychological life in order. Many of us live with anxiety, fear, worry, and negative thoughts. While incredibly difficult, it’s imperative to transform our psychological and cognitive patterns into mature patterns of thought.
  • Grown-ups have their spiritual life in order. Immature people are obsessed with themselves and other’s thoughts and opinions of them. When we’re obsessed with ourselves, with our self-concept, and with how other people are going to perceive us, that is akin to being stuck at a teenage level of emotional maturity. To get our spiritual life in order, we need to have concern for something that’s beyond ourselves.


So How Do I Get My Life Together?

Of course you’re wondering “but HOW do I get my life together?” What do I need to do? The key is growth. Actual growth.

The key to finding meaning and joy in life is to grow ourselves up.  It’s up to us to set our lives on a trajectory of growth. That takes genuine, deliberate effort. No one will make you do it.


The key to growing up is working on our mindset.


  • We get our emotional life in order by… taking responsibility for our feelings and emotions, and by starting to make different choices.
  • We get our psychological life in order by… learning to manage our anxieties, worries, and fears. (I’m speaking from experience…it IS possible to overcome these things!)
  • We get our spiritual life in order by… moving past our own self-absorption, and working on our own personal growth.


Getting Life Together by Showing Up

What does getting life together look like?  It looks like doing what you’re supposed to do with your life.

Do you know what you’re supposed to do with your life?

You show up to it!

You. Show. Up.


Show up in the world in a way that your grandchildren will talk about who you were.


…Want more?

Here’s my “How to Get Your Life Together” Book

You can grab your free copy of my “how to get your life together” book by registering for my one-time-only workshop called UNSTUCK: 5 Scripts to Flip Right Now to Stop Going Insane!


The live workshop is happening this Wednesday, September 30 at 11am ET and it will help you to grow stronger, more resilient and just plain old happier… switching out “broken” phrases on repeat in your head with scripts that actually elevate you – make life so much easier, more enjoyable and manageable, even when times are genuinely tough.


Join me for a free Mindset Workshop where we will get ourselves unstuck.


Learn 5 Mindset Hacks are totally doable, whatever you’re facing right now – and they will make a huge difference to your mood and day-to-day feelings (phew, this can get easier!)


Show Up. Grow Up. Get a Mindset Glow Up.


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So many of the ways we would usually celebrate the holidays may be out of reach. We might need to really prioritize putting our budget towards homeschool and educational stuff. We might need to be downsizing and minimizing more as we spend more time at home and our homes need to accommodate more activity for more of the time.

However this holiday season is coming upon you, whatever you’re experiencing - I’m holding space for you!

I know it might be a really painful, difficult or challenging time of year and maybe buying presents is the last thing on your mind.

If, however, you have a little bit of headspace and budget for it...

I’ve put together a list of my absolute favorite items that have truly “earned” their place in our lives and that I feel were worth the investment.

Instead of a video or a podcast this week, I've spent some time compiling this, I hope it's helpful!

Check out my Top 10 educational gifts that both you & your kids will love! (clickable link in bio)

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Or actually, don’t.



First, let’s talk about these scary mom costumes. 🧟

We’ve all been these characters, at one time or another.

No, not a sexy pirate.

Or a Fire Breathing Dragon. (Was that just me?)

But actual, real scary moms.

Real moms, who, with the best intentions, set out to make Halloween fun and meaningful and, well…get lost along the way. 👻 Instead, opting to let their fears and anxieties lead the way.

See if any of these are in your closet.

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If stressing about a Halloween costume is causing you to lose sleep, patience, or peace in your home: Let It Go. No matter how you choose to celebrate this year, your kids will remember the fun, laughter, joy, and connection with family. Not the costume.

Tell me in the comments: Have you ever worn one of these costumes? What are you willing to let go of this year? 👇👇👇

Parenting is a high stakes endeavor. We're responsible for another person's life, for goodness sake! (Who put ME in charge?!)

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it's so often seen as "lesser than".

"I'm *just* a mom."
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"I don't *really* work."

It seems like there's still some residual lack of prestige or even respect for the very high skills, high stakes work that good parenting requires.

Personally, I run a business - which I love and brings me great joy and meaning - but I still feel that parenting is THE project of my life. It requires so much more of me and is going to be so much more meaningful and important than any job I could ever do.

So - what does it mean to parent like a CEO?!

This one is small but mighty. Take just 9 minutes to shift your perception of this vital work you’re doing...

😍 Watch it here, boss >>

Let’s approach our parenting like we would a CEO role in a business, and work toward mastery in our craft!

Last chance to Depolarize with me! If you’re having trouble with intense conversations and heated topics these days... this is just a friendly reminder that I have something that might serve you!

Ten switches to flip in your conversations with people you love (or at least care enough about to have a conversation with, lol!)... these switches will help you manage your triggers, speak in a productive manner and come closer together rather than further apart.

Join Depolarize now >>

On the following dates: October 22, October 29, November 5 (Thursdays at 11:00am, New York Time)

I will be holding exclusive, intimate group coaching sessions where I will be happy to help you navigate:

Holding boundaries with people whose opinions you’re finding toxic

Deciding how to handle polarizing topics as a parent

Any other hot topic issue that’s on your mind - you’ll be invited to submit your questions and specific scenarios in advance (anonymously if you prefer).

You deserve to feel equipped to handle the tough conversations that come up in your family and friends - without it triggering you to the nines, depressing you, or pulling you away from people you love.

Even though times are extra polarizing right now, these skills are always useful as conflicts are inevitable in all relationships.

If you need to sharpen your skills in harmonizing, communicating and connecting (even with people you completely disagree with), then check out Depolarize!

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