Living with Duality – The Power of “And”
Kids (and adults, if we’re being honest) often have a rigid way of thinking. It’s often black or white, all or nothing. We see our truth, and find it hard to understand that someone else may have a different truth.
But life (and people) are much more complex and nuanced than that, and we often live with a duality that can be hard to cope with.
Today we’re going to talk about a hallmark of maturity that can help us (and our kids) deal with this.
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The Parenting Junkie Show Timestamps:
[02:50] Children often have a rigid way of thinking
[04:16] The ability to hold 2 conflicting truths at the same time is a hallmark of maturity.
[05:09] Let’s replace the word “but” & “or” with “and”
[06:44] Sometimes we can feel both a like and dislike for the same thing. What do we do with that?
[08:01] It’s immature to reduce things or people down to just one thing, all or nothing.
[08:32] Let’s try to coach our kids and introduce them to other perspectives.
As we experience challenges and difficult circumstances (and difficult people), Let’s try to use “and” more than “or” or “but”. Let’s give people space for their complex views and truths and realize that we all live with some duality in our lives.
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