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Call Out Culture: Calling Out vs Calling In

Have you ever been shamed or humiliated in front of people? If so, you’ve felt the all-too-familiar sting of callout culture.

Whether you were called out during school, a social event, or event online, most of us have been publicly shamed at some point. How did it make you feel? Did it make you want to change? Did it feel good? Did it feel like they had your best interest at heart? Odds are good your answer is no. 

So why do some think that it’s ok to continue this on into adulthood, especially online? 

Call Out Culture Podcast by The Parenting Junkie

In this episode, I’m going to discuss the dangers of call-out or “cancel culture” and what we can do instead. 

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Cancel Culture Podcast Timestamps

Use these timestamps to navigate this cancel culture podcast episode and take what you need!

[00:00] Intro

[01:53] The “callout culture” is spreading like a wild fire…even though public shaming was done away with as a legal form of punishment.

[05:37] What’s true in the micro is true in the macro.

[06:35] “How we live each day is how we live our entire lives.”

[09:10] Why do some believe you shouldn’t publicly shame children, but have no problem doing it to adults?

[10:34] The trend of publicly shaming & calling people out online.

[11:59] What child psychology tells us about public shaming. 

[14:29] Why is it ok to publicly shame adults? 

[18:47] What should we do when we see or hear something we don’t like?

[20:50] Often inaction is the “higher road” to take.

[23:20] Let’s make a culture and society that allows a margin for error.

[24:11] In the moments where you need to say something, let’s call people in.

[28:15] Let’s be curious, humble, and give others the benefit of the doubt.

[29:53] We don’t influence our children (or anyone) by attacking them or shaming them. 

 

Call-Out Culture is Toxic!

Call-Out culture is toxic and unhealthy for us, public shaming doesn’t work (and was outlawed for a reason) and people react negatively to being humiliated.

Let’s all do our part to end call out culture.

 

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So many of the ways we would usually celebrate the holidays may be out of reach. We might need to really prioritize putting our budget towards homeschool and educational stuff. We might need to be downsizing and minimizing more as we spend more time at home and our homes need to accommodate more activity for more of the time.

However this holiday season is coming upon you, whatever you’re experiencing - I’m holding space for you!

I know it might be a really painful, difficult or challenging time of year and maybe buying presents is the last thing on your mind.

If, however, you have a little bit of headspace and budget for it...

I’ve put together a list of my absolute favorite items that have truly “earned” their place in our lives and that I feel were worth the investment.

Instead of a video or a podcast this week, I've spent some time compiling this, I hope it's helpful!

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https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/gift-guide-2020 (clickable link in bio)
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Or actually, don’t.

Confused?

Understandable.

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We’ve all been these characters, at one time or another.

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See if any of these are in your closet.

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If stressing about a Halloween costume is causing you to lose sleep, patience, or peace in your home: Let It Go. No matter how you choose to celebrate this year, your kids will remember the fun, laughter, joy, and connection with family. Not the costume.

Tell me in the comments: Have you ever worn one of these costumes? What are you willing to let go of this year? 👇👇👇
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...and yet...

it's so often seen as "lesser than".

"I'm *just* a mom."
"I *just* stay home with the kids."
"I don't *really* work."

It seems like there's still some residual lack of prestige or even respect for the very high skills, high stakes work that good parenting requires.

Personally, I run a business - which I love and brings me great joy and meaning - but I still feel that parenting is THE project of my life. It requires so much more of me and is going to be so much more meaningful and important than any job I could ever do.

So - what does it mean to parent like a CEO?!

This one is small but mighty. Take just 9 minutes to shift your perception of this vital work you’re doing...

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Holding boundaries with people whose opinions you’re finding toxic

Deciding how to handle polarizing topics as a parent

Any other hot topic issue that’s on your mind - you’ll be invited to submit your questions and specific scenarios in advance (anonymously if you prefer).

You deserve to feel equipped to handle the tough conversations that come up in your family and friends - without it triggering you to the nines, depressing you, or pulling you away from people you love.

Even though times are extra polarizing right now, these skills are always useful as conflicts are inevitable in all relationships.

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One Reply to “TPJ 81: Call Out Culture: We’ve Got It All Wrong”

  1. THANX! I have found myself recently using my frustration to “call out” others a bit and have realized it is a rabbit hole that sucks you in. Your wise words were just what I needed to see what I have started doing and BACK UP and “call in” instead!

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