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Low Self Confidence? A Growth Mindset Will Help

If you are a parent who struggles with self confidence and feels down about yourself, you are not alone. Feeling unworthy and like we are falling short totally affects the quality of our lives. And the quality of our parenting.

If you’re ready to put an end to living under the tyranny of the inner critic – watch this.

Growth Mindset vs Fixed Mindset – How to Overcome Low Self Confidence as a Parent

Here’s how a growth mindset will help you overcome your low self confidence, and move into feeling like, “yeah, I’ve got this!”

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Tips for Low Self Esteem and Building Self Confidence

So many of us parents have low self esteem. We fear that we’re messing up as parents and worry that we’re not good enough.


It’s pretty much the most common fear that we parents have!


We live under the tyranny of a mean-spirited inner critic that is constantly pointing out our failures, destroying any hint of self confidence we have, and just telling us how much we suck.


But think for a moment –  how would you respond to your child saying that they’re not good enough?


How would you respond to your best friend being so worried that they’re messing up their kids completely through their parenting?


Learn How To Have High Self Esteem

I imagine that you would want your child to learn how to have high self-esteem.


If your child made a mistake, you would want them to know that:

  • mistakes are just learning opportunities
  • they can recover from mistakes and move on
  • they are good enough
  • they are valuable and worthy, just as they are
  • they can always learn, grow, change, and adapt
  • they are flexible, adjustable, and resilient
When you feel down on yourself, speak to yourself the way you would to your child.via @ParentingJunkieTweet This


So, why are you treating yourself any differently than you would treat your child?


Why can’t you also be learning, growing, changing, and on a journey?


When you feel down on yourself, speak to yourself the way you would to your child.


Go From Fixed Mindset to Growth Mindset

We must tear down our fixed mindset and leave our limiting beliefs about ourselves behind. 


Adopting a growth mindset means that:

  • you understand that you can learn and change
  • you are not stuck where you first began
  • mistakes and failures don’t define you, but they are in fact simply learning opportunities and just an inevitable part of being human
  • people can and do change
  • behaviors, thoughts, and feelings are adaptable, shapeable, and moldable
  • your brain plasticity doesn’t end in childhood – we grow and change throughout the span of our life


When you adopt a growth mindset, you know that you can be flexible.


How to Overcome a Lack of Confidence

When you have a lack of confidence, you magnify your mistakes and focus on all the ways you’re messing up. You feel like your mistakes define you and it’s insurmountable.

When you come at parenting from a mindset of growth, you will be so much more confident in yourself. 


Instead of focusing on your limiting beliefs about yourself, you’ll brush off the mistakes, call yourself a human, and try again!


Mind Growth Set Of Realizations 

The mind growth set of realizations will astound you.


You’ll be kinder to yourself, knowing that you’re on a growth journey like the rest of us, and that there’s no such thing as perfect. 😊


When you adopt a growth mindset, judgments and criticisms from other people will just roll off your back. They won’t stick, because you’ll know that’s not you. 🤷


Other people’s thoughts and judgments won’t define you. 💭


Your own mistakes and shortcomings won’t define you. They won’t mean anything about you except that you’re on a journey; one more stepping stone, one more stage to go through. 🌄


Your lack of self confidence will diminish. 👋


You’ll actually be grateful for those mistakes because that’s what makes you grow and learn. 🙏


You’ll start to realize that hard times develop your perspective, your empathy, and your wisdom. They help you to show up even better next time. 👍


A Growth Mindset Quiets Your Low Confidence

And even more importantly, a growth mindset will quieten that low confidence – that inner tyrant whose telling you you’re not good enough. 


That is such a useless voice, how does it help us?


Building Confidence As Parents

Instead of that voice, you’ll begin building confidence and strengthen the whisper that you are good enough.


You are imperfect like the rest of us, and are always growing, adapting and changing.

How can we ever judge ourselves as “not good enough” when we are constantly changing and evolving?


Growth Mindset is the Key to Self Confidence in Parenting

When you adopt a growth mindset, you’ll be flexible, compassionate, and forgiving towards yourself and towards others.

This will lead you to have so much more self confidence, feel so much calmer and really find an inner peace.

In terms of self confidence, where have you struggled lately? What limiting beliefs do you have about yourself? Feel free to leave it in a comment below!

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You guys. Sensory swings have changed our lives.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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“I feel so bad about all the mistakes I made.”
My clients have come to me feeling guilty about…⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
・having a c section/birth trauma ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
・misunderstanding their child’s needs⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
・taking too long to get a diagnosis ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
・not being home enough⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
・yelling or threatening⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
・not co-sleeping (or for co-sleeping)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
・not learning of peaceful parenting soon enough⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
・letting their child cry too much⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
For anyone who needs to hear this today:

✨ 1. FORGIVENESS is a great quality - practice it first and foremost to yourself.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
✨ 2. Guilt is a great INDICATOR for when we are not comfortable with something - after you’ve received this message, it loses its utility.
✨ 3. My guess is you’ve done a hella lot of things RIGHT. If you’re choosing what to spend time reminiscing - why not reminisce about things that make you feel great about yourself?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
✨ 4. Trust that you’ve always done the BEST you could with what you had.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
✨ 5. DON’T OVERESTIMATE the power your actions had - try not to go down the over-analysis track. You really don’t know what was cause and what was effect.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
✨ 6. DON’T UNDERESTIMATE your child’s resiliency - going through some challenges (even with you), serves them in being stronger, more capable, more adaptable people.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
✨ 7. HEALING, apology, and repair are always available and children are incredibly forgiving.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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✨ 9. MODEL for your children how you own and celebrate your accomplishments more than you busy yourself in guilt with mistakes you perceive yourself to have made. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
✨10. Continue in comments!

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2. Separate Screens From Play Spaces⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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4. Don't Hover Over Their Play (give them their space)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
5. Provide ONLY Age Appropriate Toys (more autonomy, less assistance needed)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
6. Examine Your Own Expectations⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
7. Keep Play Close By (off the kitchen for example)⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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