Has Mom Burnout Got You Feeling like a Failure?
Today, I bring a message of hope for any of you who are experiencing mom burnout, who are feeling like a failure as a mother, and who feel like they don’t know how to manage this crazy change to what’s always been reality. I am here to provide you with practical, actionable steps that you can put into place right now.
I can only imagine some of the things that you might be struggling with. You might be struggling with great anxiety over what the future holds 😟, struggling through getting through the day😴, or really feeling like you’re showing up as the worst version of yourself😡. Yelling more, maybe punishing, bribing more, and relying on screens a lot more than you’re used to. You’re not alone; we’re all feeling like our back is pressed against the wall.
Regular Motherhood Stress + Bonuses!
Many of you are feeling the very real stress of motherhood, but now with added Corona-related challenges. We have expectations for our days🗓️, our productivity💻, how clean our house should be 🧹, how much homeschooling we should be doing📚, or how peacefully we should parent💆♀️.
But if we’re still holding on to the high expectations that we had of ourselves before our level of resources changed, then we’re going to feel like a failure.
And I’m here to tell you that the answer to that equation is not that you’re a failure.
The answer to that equation is that the equation itself is wrong.
High Expectations Require High Resources
If you have high expectations you have to meet them with high resources every day of the week.
And so you have to realize there are lots of different types of resources right?
- Stuff we know
- Emotional resources
- Physical resources
- Our focus and attention
So the answer to the equation of “I expect a lot of myself but I am not meeting those expectations” isn’t that you are a failure.
The answer to that equation is:
You need to adjust your expectations to your resources.
… and they have to match every single time.
And so, here’s your plan. I want you to really look around, look at yourself, take stock of what’s going on. Notice:
- Where have my resources changed?
- Have I got less support, less time?
- More projects, more responsibilities?
- Do I have less friendship?
- Less social interaction (obviously, right?)
- Maybe my partner isn’t available. Maybe I don’t have a partner.
- Maybe I have less income right now.
- Maybe I have less help around the home.
- Do I have less community?
- Am I worried about something?
When there is a depletion of our resources there must be a depletion of our expectations.
Your Call To Action
So that means we lower our expectations. You have to realize that it might just be about getting through the day. It might just be about I fed my kids today🍝. I got dressed today👚. That’s a success, and in crisis and survival mode, we need to celebrate every little success! 🥳
We are holding a free 21 day #PlayPandemic challenge that you can join at anytime. We specifically designed each challenge to have very low demand on you, but very high yield in how it makes a big impact on your day!
Cancel Mom Burnout and Forget Feeling like a Failure
You know, in tough Corona-times, it’s important that we counterattack this virus and bring up our levels of joy, and capacity, and strength, resilience, and creativity, to cancel out all of the mom burnout and sense of feeling like a failure that so many of us are experiencing.
Where have your resources been depleted recently, and how can you match your expectations to your current resources? Leave a comment below! 👇