Peaceful parenting during times of conflict
According to Dr. Laura Markham, there are 3 key things to address when we find ourselves in a conflict situation with our child:
- What are you bringing to the situation?
Children follow presence. Try to come into the situation with calmness and presence. Being fully present and calm can help inspire confidence in your child that you will find a solution that works for everyone.
Your biggest influence comes from your connection with your child. While you cannot control another person, you can influence them. Connect deeply by listening to your child’s feelings and seizing opportunities to connect throughout the day.
We can use emotion coaching to help our children, which means allowing them to express their emotions. Usually, parents try to make emotions go away. But the only way for children start problem solving is to move through their emotions. By acknowledging our children’s feelings, we allow our child to work through them, which sets them up to problem solve and repair as needed.
Watch the role-plays below to see peaceful parenting in action!
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How to stop your child from hitting:
How do you apply peaceful parenting to stop your child from hitting? This example features your child throwing sand at another child and how to handle the situation as peacefully as possible.
How to help kids resolve conflict peacefully:
How do you apply peaceful parenting when another child hits your child? This example features an altercation over a toy that leads to the other child hitting your child, and how to handle the situation peacefully.
I would love to hear from you! Which of these situations do you find most difficult to handle? Are there any other situations you really struggle with that aren’t covered here?
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