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Understanding Early Childhood Development

When your toddler is emptying out your cupboards, mixing her water into her cereal or climbing up the towel railing, you might get really irritated (read: enraged).

This is why it’s so helpful to get some basic concepts of developmental stages into our parenting repertoire! It will help us to see their behavior for what it really is, and not project onto them some devilish motivation to ruin our laundry and destroy the carpet.

Understanding Schemas, as explained in the video above, helps us to see that our children are interested in exploring certain themes that are developmentally vital, and they’re simply using the materials at hand to make those explorations. Instead of forbidding an activity, punishing or distracting – we can creatively find ways for our children’s learning needs to be met whilst also protecting the baby (cat, rugs, our sanity…).

Does focusing on the fascination, the urge and not the specific action help you to redirect your toddler peacefully?Β  Do you want more ideas to support your ever changing toddler? Check out Present Play.
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We're kicking off Week 3 "Inspire" with a set of #StrewPro challenges!

So, what is a strew? It's simply leaving out toys, books, activities, or objects in a new and inviting way. Silently waiting for your kid to "discover" them and maybe - just maybe - to bite into independent play.

Did you know there are a myriad of "toys" in your home, strews waiting to be formed right under your nose?

Today, I want you to head to your KITCHEN and find things that your kid might take interest in...

Nesting bowls
Measuring cups
Spatulas
Wooden spoons
Pots
Pans

There's literally so many options and combinations to explore!

Try putting them out on a tray or somewhere that is not the kitchen. If you're feeling brave you can get really fancy and add in some water, slime, or dry beans (only do this if you're happy to clean it all up later).

There's really only ONE rule to becoming a Strew Pro:
Don't tell your child to play with it, don't tell them how to, in fact - you might kinda ignore it all together and just watch what happens.

Go! Grab a few items and arrange your first strew... take a πŸ“Έ picture of it and share with me @parentingjunkie in your instagram stories!

Welcome to the wonderful world of strewing, my friend!

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Can your child play independently for 30 minutes in a day?

This week you have done a lot of designing - you created a "pop-up" (a quick and scrappy) Imagination, Messy, Movement, Quiet, and Focus Zone. If you have a little one - you made a YES space for them.

Phew! πŸ˜… Time to give yourself a pat on the back!

β˜•οΈGrab your hot drink, πŸ“šyour book, and a fluffy pillow because I'll bet my Lego collection you're going to be able to catch 30 minutes of play.

Remember everything you learned in week one:
🌈 Observe without interrupting!
🌈 Practice the "BRB" technique
🌈 Set up little "pop-up zones"

...and I believe you'll be able to catch your child playing for 30 minutes today and 10x the independent play in your home by the end of this week from when you started this challenge.

Now, I know you might be feeling like you're totally not "done" designing your zones - of course not!

Rome wasn't built in a day (or a week!)

In Present Play, we're going to dedicate the entire month of May to perfecting your zones. But this should set you on your way and whet your appetite for more design solutions.

When you catch those 30 mins (or more!) make sure to share it with us! Tag me in your stories @parentingjunkie

β˜… SIGN UP for the Challenge - link in bio!

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Attention is in short supply these days. Many parents have difficulty helping their kids to focus on anything for any length of time - whilst there are so many reasons this might be the case, one thing that can help is creating a little "work" environment that makes focusing easier...

Cue, the Focus Zone! πŸ™‡β€β™‚οΈπŸ™‡β€β™€οΈ

The Focus Zone is where kids go to do their "work" (like schoolwork) and also where they do any activity that requires following instructions properly.

Think about things that have a "right" and a "wrong" way of doing them - like puzzles or science experiments. Of course, you're not necessarily going to be able to set up a whole Focus Zone right now - but can you gather your materials - things that need to be treated with respect and extra care.

CHALLENGE #13 - Create a Pop-Up Focus Zone!
Find that third cleared area that you prepped last week - preferably a quiet area away from the hustle and bustle of the home. Try placing the materials in a box, bin, tray, or basket right there, and see what happens.

Show me by tagging @parentingjunkie πŸ€—

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"Shhhh!" 🀫 You're challenge for today is to create a pop-up Quiet Zone. Here's what I mean...

Kids often love snuggling up, curling themselves into a ball, hiding away in a secret nook, or folding themselves into a little cranny.

We adults sometimes forget that kids are actively growing up and learning about the world - which can be very overwhelming. Having tantrums and making a fuss are all normal parts of growing up. But it can help when kids have a little cozy spot to call their own and escape from the center of attention.

Enter: The Quiet Zone

This is the place for reading, resting, and regulating emotions. It's a perfect zone to go in a kids' bedroom as it's not very activating or energizing - it's more about winding down.

The Quiet Zone is the place to go when you're feeling low, when you're tired, when you're having a meltdown, or when you need some time to yourself.

It could be a tent in the living room or perhaps a fort that you build together. Add in a flashlight and a pile of books, some stuffed animals, a "lovie" blanket... and you're golden!

Design a little calm, and let me know how it goes! 🧸

#reclaimplay #presentplay #toddlerlife #independentplay #independentplaytime #mombreak #playspace #playspacedesign #quietzone #emotionalregulation #emotionalregulationforkids #quietcorner #design #parentinghacks #intentionalparenting #mindfulparentingcoach #mindfulparenting #readingnook #readingbookstogether #readingtokids
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2 Replies to “Schemas: The Play Toddlers Need”

  1. Which schema does the urge to hit fall into? My 18mo not only smacks his older sister, but also lives holding spatulas, vacuum extension tubes, utencils, paint brushes, toy hammer/screwdriver, recorder… And going around hitting things with them. The wall, furniture, his sister, the floor, windows… I see he often pauses and intones a question with his item of choice at the ready, waiting for me to tell him if that surface is or isn’t appropriate for hitting. I oblige and direct him to what he can hit, but he still managed to hit inappropriate surfaces (or his sister) every day. Even though he has available toys meant to be pounded on, he seems to be exploring. I want to respect that and give him the chance to explore within appropriate limits but I’m unclear on how to do so. I give him warnings not to hit certain things again or i take the item away, and then i follow through. He cries, we move on. But it feels like an ongoing battle. I thought one of these schemas would enlighten me, but i don’t see a good fit.

    1. Karolina, if it helps my brother used to bang, hit and break everything and he is now a builder and makes loads of money. It’s normal for him to be impulsive though and will take time and maybe some humour to redirect hitting sister etc. I am in same boat

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