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Improve Focus Naturally

Whether you have a toddler or a teenager, increasing focus is important to many parents. Our culture is concerned with diagnoses of disorders and our children’s abilities to focus for long stretches.

I must say that for some children, maybe medication is the right route. I’m not qualified for that. I do know there are natural design-based ways of helping people focus that I feel should be utilized before medical intervention. Here you’ll find 20 ways to increase focus naturally that have been proven by hundreds around the world.

Free Printable | 20 Ways to Naturally Increase Focus.

I believe there are large variations in attention span and temperament that we can attribute simply to the diversity of the human experience. I feel we can view this as a strength and not the disorder it’s painted to be. 

There are large variations in attention span and temperament that we can attribute simply to the diversity of the human experience. I feel we can view this as a strength and not the disorder it’s painted to be. via @ParentingJunkieTweet This

That being said, the ability to focus for long stretches can serve us and is worth supporting. These are some of the most effective ways to increase focus naturally and without medication.

20 Ways to Increase Focus Without Medication

  1. Define lack of focus correctly
    Can they focus when they’re interested? If so, there is more likely a problem with the material and what your child is being asked to focus on. 
  2. Set reasonable expectations
    Educate yourself about child development and understand your child’s temperament. Don’t compare them to other children. Attune to the reality of that person and their specific experience.
  3. Follow your child’s interests
    Do they learn best moving or with interaction? Do they need to be asking questions? Do they enjoy creating art or making music? Think about the modalities that support these interests and make decisions that honor those. 
  4. Unstructured time outside
    Nature is always in balance. The color is soothing. There is the perfect amount of stimulation, different textures, and sensory input. Get into nature for hours every day. 
  5. Encourage Movement
    When a child is fidgety it’s an indication they feel cramped. His body is yelling to get out and get moving.  When time outside isn’t an option, providing a movement zone creates an outlet for that energy. Learn more about how to do so as a present play member. And be sure to check out my video on indoor swings.
  6. Consider Nutrition
    In my experience, and there is plenty of literature to support this, lots of healthy, vegan fats and eliminating sugars, dairy, and gluten drastically improves the brain and body’s abilities to support cognitive retention and sustain attention.
  7. Prioritize Sleep
    Many children are not getting enough sleep. Adjust your routines if necessary to be sure your child gets plenty of sound, healthy sleep. One of my favorite ways to accomplish this is with an early bedtime.
  8. Simplify the schedule
    Fewer activities, transitions, and places to go provides the appropriate environment for sinking into focused play. 
  9. Set Predictable Routines in Place
    Flexible but predictable and reliable schedules help liberate us from the frenzy of transitions. 
  10. Minimalism
    Less stuff
    means less visual clutter and distraction. Studies have shown that children will sustain play for longer periods of time when they have fewer toys available to them. 
  11. No screens
    Exposure to screens stimulates the brain, drastically decreasing the ability to focus. Consciously limit screens to dedicated times and avoid having them in the vicinity while your child plays. 
  12. DO NOT interrupt
    Our movements and comments are distracting during play.  Give your child a YES space where he can play safely and independently without distractions. 
  13. Celebrate wins
    Acknowledge and take note to yourself when you notice your child focusing and developing their ability to play for longer stretches. 
  14. Do not label
    Your child is exactly who he or she needs to be. Placing a label like “distracted,” or “attention problem” will serve no purpose. They focus the way they’re meant to right now. 
  15. Soothing sounds
    Be aware of the auditory distractions in the environment. Provide soothing music or an audiobook that keeps them in the flow of what they’re doing.
  16. Soothing smells
    We often don’t consider how the smell of our surroundings affects our attention. There are many essential oils that can be relaxing and improve concentration. 
  17. Enough sensory input
    Many children need this sensory input to be able to focus. This might mean stimulation for their fingers and hands or gentle pressure or movement for their bodies. (Leave me a comment if you want another video on this topic!) 
  18. Bring attention back to the task
    Demonstrate focused interest in something to attract their focus back to a task. 
  19. Encourage and reflect persistence
    Model for your child how to come back to a task and re-engage. 
  20. Help them work through frustrations
    Coach through emotions that become obstacles by scaffolding and helping them work through a problem to build intrinsic motivation. 

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What types of play captures your child’s attention? Have you tried any of the tips listed here?  Which of the 20 ways do you want to learn more about?


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12 Replies to “20 Ways to Improve Your Child’s Focus Naturally Without Medication”

  1. Hello,

    With respect, as a dietitian I must disagree with point number 6. For healthy children (those without allergies to dairy or celiac disease), restriction of large groups of foods should not be recommended. There is no evidence that dairy or gluten are harmful to healthy children (or adults for that matter) and an overly restrictive diet can be harmful (especially for growing children). For example gluten-free foods are usually not enriched with vitamins and minerals like other foods. A child eating a gluten-free diet may miss out on certain nutrients such as iron and B-vitamins. A gluten-free diet can be expensive and is not easy to follow. Speak to a registered dietitian or your doctor if you are concerned about possible allergy or intolerance to gluten, dairy or any other foods.

    As for sugar, added sugars should be limited (but not necessarily completely excluded) as part of a healthy, balanced diet.

    Thank you for all of these other wonderful ideas for promoting focus in our children!

    1. Thanks for that clarification Melanie! Totally agree that it’s for children who are sensitive or intolerant, not just for anyone – and that everyone should consult a professional before making major changes like this!

  2. In order to increase the focus child you need to work on his mental activities such as how your child is behaving in front of the people and so on. You can increase the focus of your child by involving him in some kind of activity such as playing quizzes and some tricky games. This will help your child to increase intelligence power of their mind.

  3. Good morning,

    I’d like more information on point number 17. I noticed that my 12 year old son likes to fiddle with my fingers and prick himself with my finger nails.

  4. I am a mother with ADHD and I use number 3 as a treatment about the illness of my child, to my surprise it was so effective, he is interested in listening in different kinds of music. We also do exercises like yoga, biking, and jogging. After a couple of months of doing this together, he is now focused and alert in all things. He can also now interact with other people and make friends. Thanks for this idea!

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